TESTIMONIALS
Special Feature from Sonny & Judy - Married Couple
In the Marriage by Design class, my husband and I have gained invaluable insights that have deeply impacted our perspectives on ourselves, marriage, and our marriage relationship.
Intimacy – Beyond the Physical: The first major insight that struck a chord with us was the notion of intimacy extending far beyond physical involvement. Terry’s thought-provoking question about differentiating between friendship, an exclusive dating relationship, and an intimate relationship was an eye-opener. It dawned on us that despite being married for 12 years, we had been lacking true intimacy. This realization emphasized the need for deeper connections and more meaningful communication in our marriage. We now understand that intimacy is about oneness, emotional connection, and genuine openness, and we are committed to cultivating it.”
Understanding Covenant Marriage: Another critical lesson was understanding the dynamics of a covenant marriage. Learning to distinguish healthy traits from unhealthy ones, recognizing problems, and identifying their antidotes was a revelation. We understood that personal growth and self-improvement are essential components of a thriving relationship. Instead of blaming or pointing fingers at each other, we’re committed to doing the inner work necessary for our marriage to flourish. This insight has shifted our perspective from ‘you vs. me’ to ‘us against the problem,’ fostering a more supportive and harmonious partnership.
Roles as Suitable Helpers and Leaders: The third impactful insight centered around the roles of a wife as a suitable helper and a husband as a mature and capable leader. This lesson prompted us to reflect on our respective roles and responsibilities in our marriage. We’ve taken the time to allow spiritual guidance to reveal areas within us that require attention and growth. Recognizing what it means to be a suitable helper and what it takes for a husband to lead effectively has empowered us to strive for a balanced and fulfilling partnership.
These three insights have resonated with us on a profound level, leading us to revisit and redefine our commitment to one another and our vision for the future. We now understand that a successful marriage is built on intimacy, self-improvement, and a shared understanding of our roles as husband and wife. As we continue to apply these lessons, we are excited about the positive transformations they will bring to our marriage.
Terry and Carol are a couple who truly live what they teach. Their passion for marriage and relationships comes not only from knowledge, but from years of experience walking together and helping others do the same. They have a way of making you feel seen and understood, because they speak from both perspectives, bringing balance and honesty into every conversation.
What stands out most about them is how genuine and compassionate they are. They don’t just talk about God’s design for marriage—they walk couples through it step by step, showing the importance of communication, trust, and respect in a way that feels real and doable. Their wisdom is practical, their approach is full of grace, and their hearts are committed to helping couples build strong, Godly foundations.
Spending time with Terry and Carol doesn’t feel like sitting in a class—it feels like being guided by trusted friends who care deeply about your success in marriage and in life.
Recent Client
The class was interactive and had real-life scenarios that we can apply to our daily life.
Loved the in-class reenactment of the father giving his daughter away to her husband – This particular event resonated with Us and the responsibility it is for both of us to cherish the gift God has given to us through Marriage.
We have taken the Five Love Languages quiz previously, however, it was never truly outlined how the person feels if something is done or not done to them. Your explanation on this was eye opening and gave us a real view into the other’s vantage point.
Finally, the content of the presentations gave us true insight on how God intended Marriage to be; and why it is imperative to speak life, and unify with one another, just as God and Jesus are one.
Anonymous Married Couple
The Marriage by Design class was absolutely AMAZING!!! It has improved my personal relationships tremendously. Terry & Carol should expand this course to teenagers or at least young adults. I believe it would MOST definitely reduce the number of failed marriages and get couples to focus on the way God designed marriage to be.
Cindy - Divorcee, Single Female
One “Ah-hah” was when you talked about the “Pursuit of Healthiness – Individual Wholeness.” In this topic you stated that our, “relationships are only as healthy as we are.” You stated the importance of emotional health and working on the inside of oneself versus only the outward identity.
We agree with you when you say that no one can meet all our needs, and that first we need to have a real relationship with God which gives us profound significance; because without significance we are insecure.
You then mentioned that we must also have unswerving authenticity – because without being our true selves, we are basically being phony!
You stated we also must have “self-giving love.” We agree wholeheartedly because self-giving love is being selfless individuals. When we each love this way and go out of our way to make the other feel appreciated, giving to them without expecting any payment back, (or the appreciation back), we then meet their emotional needs, even if we think they are not doing much to meet our own.
We will instead put their needs ahead of our own, such as being more affectionate, carrying on conversations and communicating, offering family commitment support, financial support and just giving our love selflessly because they say, “with love, the more you love, the more you get back”
Anonymous Married Couple
Daneita Blalock Hudson
Applying what was learned about the keys of an intimate relationship with God first and then Adam’s Suitable Helper, I got some valuable insight. I need to continue to work on my relationship with God first through intentional Bible reading, prayer time with God, and worshiping Him.
I need to continue to seek the love, security, and trust of God first – Matt 6:33. I need to be careful and humble myself and not allow my heart to be hardened because it will impact my relationship w/ God the Father, Jesus Christ, my spouse, and mankind.
As I stay in fellowship with God, I will understand His purpose for me and will trust that whoever/ whatever He provides for me will be a uniquely suitable gift from above. Evident by Adam’s response to his gift from God – Genesis 2:23-24.
Brian – Divorced, Single Male
Prior to our Marriage by Design class our perspective was that a couple’s relationship begins as a friendship, develops to dating, then becomes exclusive, and enters an intimate relationship. We learned that just because a couple is in a committed relationship or marriage, it does not mean they have intimacy within their relationship. Intimacy plays a huge part in oneness with your spouse.
Intimacy did not just come about once we said “I Do” and we learned that is completely okay, because intimacy grows overtime. Intimacy in a relationship is an amazing emotional connection we get the opportunity to build when both partners effectively work towards developing the relationship with Trust, Security, Safety, Understanding, Respect, Obedience, Honor, Love and Appreciation towards each other. Learning that this is the type of oneness that God intends for us to have in our marriage helped us release control and feel comfortable being vulnerable with each other. Our time together feels more connected and our talks are more special.
Byron & Macy – Married Couple
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Dick and Brenda Smith